Happy Monday lovely people!
Hope you’ve had a great start to the week.
London has been on her best behaviour with the sunshine hasn’t she? Let’s hope it stays that way!
Through out last week the words “self care” were on my mind. Our generation is very familiar with the concept of looking after yourself. Discussions on fitness, wellness, and mental health are rampant on our timelines (rightfully so) and no matter the topic you end up exploring it probably includes the two buzzwords “self care.”
WHAT IS SELF CARE?
Simply put, self care is choosing to love and honour yourself; physically, emotionally, & spiritually. At first glance this might seem quite selfish. However, the truth is that we have a responsibility to ourselves. In my experience feeling good doesn’t just happen. We have to cultivate a sense of overall “wellness.”
Worry not that your decision to indulge in “self care” might appear selfish. Looking after yourself is a necessity not luxury. As women we are often encouraged to continuously give of ourselves, nuture our family and friends till we can give no more. While being generous with ourselves is a noble disposition to have, remember there is no badge of honour for being exhausted and drained!
It’s also important to remember that even if you are not being pulled in many directions, and just to want to indulge in self care that’s alright too! After all you don’t need permission to love yourself! Don’t wait for anyone (or society) to let you know it’s okay to pamper yourself.
We are worthy. We deserve it!
Admittedly, the first thing that comes to mind when I think of self care is beauty treatments. Spas, blows dries and mani/pedis. If you have resources to make this happen at a frequent rate please go for it.
If like most people you are “ballin’” on a budget invest in some sheets masks to pamper your skin, and lather yourself in oils/moistures that smell delicious. Last week, I indulged in a hand mask. Yes, that’s a thing. It’s a practical way to restore moisture in our hands and a fun treat to end the day combined with a feminine pink manicure this made me feel like the “self care” Queen. I get my nails done often in my favourite shades of pink and this also contributes to my overall “self care.”
Remember it’s a myth that self care has to break the bank. There are so many beuty treatments that’s can be done from the comfort of your home. Take some time out each evening to decide what products and treatment you’ll indulge in. Sit, back relax and enjoy!
HOME SWEET HOME
I believe that our home should be a sanctuary. A place to be restored, inspired and feel secure. If you are a home body like me you’ve probably realised that your enviroment plays a huge part in the “self care” process.
Surround yourself with the things you love. For me that’s flowers. I recently bought some pink roses for my bedside table and little things like this bring me so much joy! Clean bedding, candles and a tidy home make me feel good about myself.
Truth be told, I want my home to feel like a 5-star hotel. A place I look forward to being in. Studies have shown that keeping your home organised, tidy and smelling nice has an effect on our mental health.
A tough day is made easier by the fact that your environment is in “order.” Don’t be a slave to cleaning, your home is to be enjoyed. Don’t neglect it either. I’ve invested in more candles and even have them burning when I’m in the shower whilst listening to my favourite old school R’n’B. Sounds extra? Well that’s what self care is about. Doing what make you feel good!
So, self care isn’t all face masks and body treatments. How we speak to oursleves is just as, if not more important than what do externally. I’ll be the first to admit I have torn myself down with my inner dialogue. Uttering words to myself that I probably won’t say to someone else!
Why do we that? We invest so much time in thinking about how amazing and great other people are and often downplay ourselves. Society has taught us self love is “arrogant”. It goes without saying there is probably a fine line, but self love is so important! We never escape ourselves, so while we navigate the journey of life we must learn to be at peace with ourselves, and love ourselves so we can love others!
It’s time to shower ourselves with words of encouragement too. Last week, I made a decision to congratulate myself for every small step I was taking towards my dreams and also made sure to correct myself with love if I was doing the wrong thing. I kept my inner dialogue healthy, affirming and loving.
My decision to be kind to myself for a week has shown me, that my word and thoughts have power! Try changing your self talk for a few days and watch your self esteem soar!
If you are not yet convinced think about it like this; you can’t give what you don’t have. Also remember that we are constantly speaking to ourselves (consciously or subconsciously) so make that conversation healthy!
Self care, is also self discipline. It’s not indulgent. It takes effort but it’s so worth it.
Let me know what you do for self care?
If you’ve tried any of the tips suggested let me know.